Hate well?


Have you ever been in a situation where you were rubbed the wrong way? Maybe someone offended you? Someone was mean to your children and you didn’t know how to handle the situation the correct way? You feel like if you don’t make a stand you will burst at the seams! We have our character that is in part formed by what we hate, because we move to be different from whatever that is. Our hatred of that serves as our protective force. When someone comes against that it causes us to want to protect what we value. I personally hate it when people i love are personally threatened. So i move to protect them. My protective emotions kick in. I immediately react by moving against the threat, destroy the threat, then protect what is good. (Not sure if that even make sense to you.)

What we hate defines who we are. But how do we hate well? Wise people hate in a certain way and then respond in a certain way. They let the hate solve a problem instead of creating new problems. I want to learn this! Normally i will storm into the situation enraged and angry about the issue. I may even be hurtful instead of tackling the issue in a constructive fashion and solving the issue in the process. A wise person moves against the problem, and shows love and respect to the person in the process. I heard a wise person once say,”Go hard on the issue and soft on the person.” This is profound. I find myself going hard on the person i have the issue with and this is very unwise. I always let my emotions go ahead of me. I know negative emotions are of little value when it comes to solving problems. My hate has passionate roots and deep connections to the heart and spurs all kinds of feelings. The way i see life is not how another may see it and what frustrates me the most is being misunderstood. Being this way has caused me a lot of pain and heartache in my past. I do know that we get what we tolerate. If we allow mistreatment, you will be mistreated. Wise people do not tolerate dysfunction. They hate it wisely. They don’t destroy the person or relationship in the process, but they do not tolerate the infection. So choosing what we hate is very serious!! What will i tolerate? What will we work with and what will we absolutely under no circumstances allow? What we do not hate well is going to find it’s way in our life? ‘Im glad i had this talk with myself….Enjoy

Proverbs 6:16-19
The Message (MSG)
Seven Things God Hates

16-19 Here are six things God hates,
and one more that he loathes with a passion:
eyes that are arrogant,
a tongue that lies,
hands that murder the innocent,
a heart that hatches evil plots,
feet that race down a wicked track,
a mouth that lies under oath,
a troublemaker in the family.

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