I found myself in a very interesting conversation this week with a dear client and had to share. We were talking about people in general and how some people like to end one relationship and start another right away without missing a beat. All great events cast a shadow before them, and so many of us get caught up in the shadow. How? We move on to something new without closure. We jump into something new before we understand the old. We think that we can start a new relationship when we are still angry about the old relationship. We think that we can find a new, better paying job when we are still upset about how we were treated on the old job. You cannot move forward into something bigger, better, brighter than what you had until you clear your feeling about what the old thing was, what you learned and what you are taking with you. Without closure, the bad stuff you had before is always going to follow you.
A shadow is cast by a coming event. The shadow is not the event itself. Some shadows are dark. They may frighten you. They also obscure your vision. Other shadows are bright, so bright in fact that they blind you to what is really going on. A bright shadow may lead you out of the darkness but may not provide you with a clear vision of where you are headed. When you attempt to leave where you are without closure, you will undoubtedly get lost in some kind of shadow. A shadow in your mind. A shadow on your heart. The only way to insure that you are standing squarely in a new event and not the shadow is to make the effort to understand what you are leaving, what you have learned and how you plan to make the next event different.
If, like me, at some point in your past, you have been compelled to move on without forethought or closure. Running is never a good thing. Be still! Make no decisions!! Give yourself some time! When you feel ready to move forward, ask the Holy spirit to show you where and how to move into a new beginning.
Love NEVER fails ♥
– 1 Corinthians 13:8